Interpersonal Communication
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Read this article, which explains interpersonal communication. Consider
the ways in which you can apply this knowledge in your own interactions.
Table of contents
- 1. Introduction
- 2. Theories
- 2.1. Uncertainty reduction theory
- 2.2. Social exchange theory
- 2.3. Symbolic interaction
- 2.4. Relational dialectics theory
- 2.5. Coordinated management of meaning
- 2.6. Social penetration theory
- 2.7. Relational patterns of interaction theory
- 2.8. Theory of intertype relationships
- 2.9. Identity management theory
- 2.10. Communication privacy management theory
- 2.11. Cognitive dissonance theory
- 2.12. Attribution theory
- 2.13. Expectancy violations theory
- 2.14. Pedagogical communication
- 2.15. Social networks
- 2.16. Hurt
- 2.17. Interpersonal conflict
- 2.18. Technology and interpersonal communication skills
- 3. Relevance to mass communication
- 4. Context
1. Introduction
Interpersonal communication is an exchange of information between two or more people. It is also an area of research that seeks to understand how humans use verbal and nonverbal cues to accomplish a number of personal and relational goals.
Interpersonal communication research addresses at least six categories of inquiry: 1) how humans adjust and adapt their verbal communication and nonverbal communication during face-to-face communication; 2) how messages are produced; 3) how uncertainty influences behavior and information-management strategies; 4) deceptive communication; 5) relational dialectics; and 6) social interactions that are mediated by technology.
A large number of scholars have described their work as research into interpersonal communication. There is considerable variety in how this area of study is conceptually and operationally defined. Researchers in interpersonal communication come from many different research paradigms and theoretical traditions, adding to the complexity of the field. Interpersonal communication is often defined as communication that takes place between people who are interdependent and have some knowledge of each other: for example, communication between a son and his father, an employer and an employee, two sisters, a teacher and a student, two lovers, two friends, and so on.
Although interpersonal communication is most often between pairs of individuals, it can also be extended to include small intimate groups such as the family. Interpersonal communication can take place in face-to-face settings, as well as through platforms such as social media. The study of interpersonal communication addresses a variety of elements and uses both quantitative/social scientific methods and qualitative methods.
There is growing interest in biological and physiological perspectives on interpersonal communication. Some of the concepts explored are personality, knowledge structures and social interaction, language, nonverbal signals, emotional experience and expression, supportive communication, social networks and the life of relationships, influence, conflict, computer-mediated communication, interpersonal skills, interpersonal communication in the workplace, intercultural perspectives on interpersonal communication, escalation and de-escalation of romantic or platonic relationships, interpersonal communication and healthcare, family relationships, and communication across the life span.
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2. Theories
2.1. Uncertainty reduction theory
Uncertainty
reduction theory, developed in 1975, comes from the socio-psychological
perspective. It addresses the basic process of how we gain knowledge
about other people. According to the theory, people have difficulty with
uncertainty. You are not sure what is going to come next, so you are
uncertain how you should prepare for the upcoming event. To help predict
behavior, they are motivated to seek information about the people with
whom they interact.
The theory argues that strangers, upon
meeting, go through specific steps and checkpoints in order to reduce
uncertainty about each other and form an idea of whether they like or
dislike each other. During communication, individuals are making plans
to accomplish their goals. At highly uncertain moments, they will become
more vigilant and rely more on data available in the situation. A
reduction in certainty leads to a loss of confidence in the initial
plan, such that the individual may make contingency plans. The theory
also says that higher levels of uncertainty create distance between
people and that non-verbal expressiveness tends to help reduce
uncertainty.
Constructs include the level of uncertainty, the
nature of the relationship and ways to reduce uncertainty. Underlying
assumptions include the idea that an individual will cognitively process
the existence of uncertainty and take steps to reduce it. The boundary
conditions for this theory are that there must be some kind of trigger,
usually based on the social situation, and internal cognitive process.
According to the theory, we reduce uncertainty in three ways:
- Passive strategies: observing the person.
- Active strategies: asking others about the person or looking up information
- Interactive strategies: asking questions, self-disclosure.
Uncertainty
reduction theory is most applicable to the initial interaction context.
Scholars have extended the uncertainty framework with theories that
describe uncertainty management and motivated information management.
These extended theories give a broader conceptualization of how
uncertainty operates in interpersonal communication as well as how
uncertainty motivates individuals to seek information. The theory has
also been applied to romantic relationships.
2.2. Social exchange theory
Social
exchange theory falls under the symbolic interaction perspective. The
theory describes, explains, and predicts when and why people reveal
certain information about themselves to others. The social exchange
theory uses Thibaut and Kelley's (1959) theory of interdependence. This
theory states that "relationships grow, develop, deteriorate, and
dissolve as a consequence of an unfolding social-exchange process, which
may be conceived as a bartering of rewards and costs both between the
partners and between members of the partnership and others". Social
exchange theory argues that the major force in interpersonal
relationships is the satisfaction of both people's self-interest.
According
to the theory, human interaction is analogous to an economic
transaction, in that an individual may seek to maximize rewards and
minimize costs. Actions such as revealing information about oneself will
occur when the cost-reward ratio is acceptable. As long as rewards
continue to outweigh costs, a pair of individuals will become
increasingly intimate by sharing more and more personal information. The
constructs of this theory include disclosure, relational expectations,
and perceived rewards or costs in the relationship. In the context of
marriage, the rewards within the relationship include emotional security
and sexual fulfillment. Based on this theory Levinger argued that
marriages will fail when the rewards of the relationship lessen, the
barriers against leaving the spouse are weak, and the alternatives
outside of the relationship are appealing.
2.3. Symbolic interaction
Symbolic
interaction comes from the socio-cultural perspective in that it relies
on the creation of shared meaning through interactions with others.
This theory focuses on the ways in which people form meaning and
structure in society through interactions. People are motivated to act
based on the meanings they assign to people, things, and events.
Symbolic
interaction considers the world to be made up of social objects that
are named and have socially determined meanings. When people interact
over time, they come to shared meaning for certain terms and actions and
thus come to understand events in particular ways. There are three main
concepts in this theory: society, self, and mind.
Society
Social acts (which create meaning) involve an initial gesture from one individual, a response to that gesture from another, and a result.
Self
Self-image comes from interaction with others. A person makes sense of the world and defines their "self" through social interactions that indicate the value of the self.
Mind
The ability to use significant symbols makes thinking possible. One defines objects in terms of how one might react to them.
Constructs
for this theory include creation of meaning, social norms, human
interactions, and signs and symbols. An underlying assumption for this
theory is that meaning and social reality are shaped from interactions
with others and that some kind of shared meaning is reached. For this to
be effective, there must be numerous people communicating and
interacting and thus assigning meaning to situations or objects.
2.4. Relational dialectics theory
The
dialectical approach to interpersonal communication revolves around the
notions of contradiction, change, praxis, and totality, with influences
from Hegel, Marx, and Bakhtin. The dialectical approach searches for
understanding by exploring the tension of opposing arguments. Both
internal and external dialectics function in interpersonal
relationships, including separateness vs. connection, novelty vs.
predictability, and openness vs. closedness.
Relational
dialectics theory deals with how meaning emerges from the interplay of
competing discourses. A discourse is a system of meaning that helps us
to understand the underlying sense of a particular utterance.
Communication between two parties invokes multiple systems of meaning
that are in tension with each other. Relational dialectics theory argues
that these tensions are both inevitable and necessary. The meanings
intended in our conversations may be interpreted, understood, or
misunderstood. In this theory, all discourse, including internal
discourse, has competing properties that relational dialectics theory
aims to analyze.
The three relational dialectics
Relational
dialectics theory assumes three different types of tensions in
relationships: connectedness vs. separateness, certainty vs.
uncertainty, and openness vs. closedness.
Connectedness vs. separateness
Most individuals naturally desire that their interpersonal relationships involve close connections. However, relational dialectics theory argues that no relationship can be enduring unless the individuals involved within it have opportunities to be alone. An excessive reliance on a specific relationship can result in the loss of individual identity.
Certainty vs. uncertainty
Individuals desire a sense of assurance and predictability in their interpersonal relationships. However, they also desire variety, spontaneity and mystery in their relationships. Like repetitive work, relationships that become bland and monotonous are undesirable.
Openness vs. closedness
In
close interpersonal relationships, individuals may feel a pressure to
reveal personal information, as described in social penetration theory.
This pressure may be opposed by a natural desire to retain some level of
personal privacy.
2.5. Coordinated management of meaning
The
coordinated management of meaning theory assumes that two individuals
engaging in an interaction each construct their own interpretation and
perception of what a conversation means, then negotiate a common meaning
by coordinating with each other. This coordination involves the
individuals establishing rules for creating and interpreting meaning.
The rules that individuals can apply in any communicative situation include constitutive and regulative rules.
Constitutive rules are "rules of meaning used by communicators to interpret or understand an event or message".
Regulative rules are "rules of action used to determine how to respond or behave".
When
one individual sends a message to the other the recipient must
interpret the meaning of the interaction. Often, this can be done almost
instantaneously because the interpretation rules that apply to the
situation are immediate and simple. However, there are times when the
interpretation of the 'rules' for an interaction is not obvious. This
depends on each communicator's previous beliefs and perceptions within a
given context and how they can apply these rules to the current
interaction. These "rules" of meaning "are always chosen within a
context", and the context of a situation can be used as a framework for
interpreting specific events. Contexts that an individual can refer to
when interpreting a communicative event include the relationship
context, the episode context, the self-concept context, and the
archetype context.
Relationship context
This context assumes that there are mutual expectations between individuals who are members of a group.
Episode context
This context refers to a specific event in which the communicative act is taking place.
Self-concept context
This context involves one's sense of self, or an individual's personal 'definition' of him/herself.
Archetype context
This context is essentially one's image of what his or her belief
consists of regarding general truths within communicative exchanges.
Pearce
and Cronen argue that these specific contexts exist in a hierarchical
fashion. This theory assumes that the bottom level of this hierarchy
consists of the communicative act. The relationship context is next in
the hierarchy, then the episode context, followed by the self-concept
context, and finally the archetype context.
2.6. Social penetration theory
Social
penetration theory is a conceptual framework that describes the
development of interpersonal relationships. This theory refers to the
reciprocity of behaviors between two people who are in the process of
developing a relationship. These behaviors can include verbal/nonverbal
exchange, interpersonal perceptions, and interactions with the
environment. The behaviors vary based on the different levels of
intimacy in the relationship.
"Onion theory"
This theory
is often known as the "onion theory". This analogy suggests that like an
onion, personalities have "layers". The outside layer is what the
public sees, and the core is one's private self. When a relationship
begins to develop, the individuals in the relationship may undergo a
process of self-disclosure, progressing more deeply into the "layers".
Social
penetration theory recognizes five stages: orientation, exploratory
affective exchange, affective exchange, stable exchange, and
de-penetration. Not all of these stages happen in every relationship.
- Orientation stage: strangers exchange only impersonal information and are very cautious in their interactions.
- Exploratory affective stage: communication styles become somewhat more friendly and relaxed.
- Affective exchange: there is a high amount of open communication between individuals. These relationships typically consist of close friends or even romantic or platonic partners.
- Stable exchange: continued open and personal types of interaction.
- De-penetration: when the relationship's costs exceed its benefits there may be a withdrawal of information, ultimately leading to the end of the relationship.
If the early stages take place too quickly, this may be negative for the progress of the relationship.
Example: Jenny and Justin met for the first time at a wedding.
Within minutes Jenny starts to tell Justin about her terrible
ex-boyfriend and the misery he put her through. This is information that
is typically shared at stage three or four, not stage one. Justin finds
this off-putting, reducing the chances of a future relationship.
Social
penetration theory predicts that people decide to risk self-disclosure
based on the costs and rewards of sharing information, which are
affected by factors such as relational outcome, relational stability,
and relational satisfaction.
The depth of penetration is the
degree of intimacy a relationship has accomplished, measured relative to
the stages above. Griffin defines depth as "the degree of disclosure in
a specific area of an individual's life" and breadth as "the range of
areas in an individual's life over which disclosure takes place".
The theory explains the following key observations:
- Peripheral items are exchanged more frequently and sooner than private information;
- Self-disclosure is reciprocal, especially in the early stages of relationship development;
- Penetration is rapid at the start but slows down quickly as the tightly wrapped inner layers are reached;
- De-penetration is a gradual process of layer-by-layer withdrawal.
Computer-mediated social penetration
Online
communication seems to follow a different set of rules. Because much
online communication occurs on an anonymous level, individuals have the
freedom to forego the 'rules' of self disclosure. In on-line
interactions personal information can be disclosed immediately and
without the risk of excessive intimacy. For example, Facebook users post
extensive personal information, pictures, information on hobbies, and
messages. This may be due to the heightened level of perceived control
within the context of the online communication medium.
2.7. Relational patterns of interaction theory
Paul Watzlawick's theory of communication, popularly known as the "Interactional View", interprets relational patterns of interaction in the context of five "axioms". The theory draws on the cybernetic tradition. Watzlawick, his mentor Gregory Bateson and the members of the Mental Research Institute in Palo Alto were known as the Palo Alto Group. Their work was highly influential in laying the groundwork for family therapy and the study of relationships.
Ubiquitous communication
The theory states that a person's presence alone results in them, consciously or not, expressing things about themselves and their relationships with others (i.e., communicating). A person cannot avoid interacting, and even if they do, their avoidance may be read as a statement by others. This ubiquitous interaction leads to the establishment of "expectations" and "patterns" which are used to determine and explain relationship types.
Expectations
Individuals enter communication with others having established expectations for their own behavior as well as the behavior of those they are communicating with. During the interaction these expectations may be reinforced, or new expectations may be established that will be used in future interactions. New expectations are created by new patterns of interaction, while reinforcement results from the continuation of established patterns of interaction.
Patterns of interaction
Established patterns of interaction are created when a trend occurs regarding how two people interact with each other. There are two patterns of particular importance to the theory. In symmetrical relationships, the pattern of interaction is defined by two people responding to one another in the same way. This is a common pattern of interaction within power struggles. In complementary relationships, the participants respond to one another in opposing ways. An example of such a relationship would be when one person is argumentative while the other is quiet.
Relational control
Relational control refers to who
is in control within a relationship. The pattern of behavior between
partners over time, not any individual's behavior, defines the control
within a relationship. Patterns of behavior involve individuals'
responses to others' assertions.
There are three kinds of responses:
- One-down responses are submissive to, or accepting of, another's assertions.
- One-up responses are in opposition to, or counter, another's assertions.
- One-across responses are neutral in nature.
Complementary exchanges
A complementary exchange occurs when a partner asserts a one-up message which the other partner responds to with a one-down response. If complementary exchanges are frequent within a relationship it is likely that the relationship itself is complementary.
Symmetrical exchanges
Symmetrical
exchanges occur when one partner's assertion is countered with a
reflective response: a one-up assertion is met with a one-up response,
or a one-down assertion is met with a one-down response. If symmetrical
exchanges are frequent within a relationship it is likely that the
relationship is also symmetrical.
Applications of relational
control include analysis of family interactions, and also the analysis
of interactions such as those between teachers and students.
2.8. Theory of intertype relationships
Socionics
proposes a theory of relationships between psychological types
(intertype relationships) based on a modified version of C.G. Jung's
theory of psychological types. Communication between types is described
using the concept of information metabolism proposed by Antoni Kępiński.
Socionics defines 16 types of relations, ranging from the most
attractive and comfortable to disputed. This analysis gives insight into
some features of interpersonal relations, including aspects of
psychological and sexual compatibility, and ranks as one of the four
most popular models of personality.
2.9. Identity management theory
Falling under the socio-cultural tradition, identity-management theory explains the establishment, development, and maintenance of identities within relationships, as well as changes to identities within relationships.
Establishing identities
People establish their identities (or faces), and their partners, through a process referred to as "facework". Everyone has a desired identity which they are constantly working towards establishing. This desired identity can be both threatened and supported by attempts to negotiate a relational identity (the identity one shares with one's partner). Thus, a person's desired identity is directly influenced by their relationships, and their relational identity by their desired individual identity.
Cultural influence
Identity management pays significant attention to intercultural relationships and how they affect the relational and individual identities of those involved, especially the different ways in which partners of different cultures negotiate with each other in an effort to satisfy desires for adequate autonomous identities and relational identities. Tensions within intercultural relationships can include stereotyping, or "identity freezing", and "nonsupport".
Relational stages of identity management
Identity
management is an ongoing process that Imahori and Cupach define as
having three relational stages. The trial stage occurs at the beginning
of an intercultural relationship when partners are beginning to explore
their cultural differences. During this stage, each partner is
attempting to determine what cultural identities they want in the
relationship. At the trial stage, cultural differences are significant
barriers to the relationship and it is critical for partners to avoid
identity freezing and nonsupport. During this stage, individuals are
more willing to risk face threats to establish a balance necessary for
the relationship. The enmeshment stage occurs when a relational identity
emerges with established common cultural features. During this stage,
the couple becomes more comfortable with their collective identity and
the relationship in general. In the renegotiation stage, couples work
through identity issues and draw on their past relational history while
doing so. A strong relational identity has been established by this
stage and couples have mastered dealing with cultural differences. It is
at this stage that cultural differences become part of the relationship
rather than a tension within it.
2.10. Communication privacy management theory
Communication privacy management theory, from the socio-cultural tradition, is concerned with how people negotiate openness and privacy in relation to communicated information. This theory focuses on how people in relationships manage boundaries which separate the public from the private.
Boundaries
An individual's private information is protected by the individual's boundaries. The permeability of these boundaries is ever changing, allowing selective access to certain pieces of information. This sharing occurs when the individual has weighed their need to share the information against their need to protect themselves. This risk assessment is used by couples when evaluating their relationship boundaries. The disclosure of private information to a partner may result in greater intimacy, but it may also result in the discloser becoming more vulnerable.
Co-ownership of information
When someone chooses to reveal private information to another person, they are making that person a co-owner of the information. Co-ownership comes with rules, responsibilities, and rights that must be negotiated between the discloser of the information and the receiver of it. The rules might cover questions such as: Can the information be disclosed? When can the information be disclosed? To whom can the information be disclosed? And how much of the information can be disclosed? The negotiation of these rules can be complex, and the rules can be explicit as well as implicit; rules may also be violated.
Boundary turbulence
What
Petronio refers to as "boundary turbulence" occurs when rules are not
mutually understood by co-owners, and when a co-owner of information
deliberately violates the rules. This is not uncommon and usually
results in some kind of conflict. It often results in one party becoming
more apprehensive about future revelations of information to the
violator.
2.11. Cognitive dissonance theory
The
theory of cognitive dissonance, part of the cybernetic tradition,
argues that humans are consistency seekers and attempt to reduce their
dissonance, or cognitive discomfort. The theory was developed in the
1950s by Leon Festinger.
The theory holds that when individuals
encounter new information or new experiences, they categorize the
information based on their preexisting attitudes, thoughts, and beliefs.
If the new encounter does not fit their preexisting assumptions, then
dissonance is likely to occur. Individuals are then motivated to reduce
the dissonance they experience by avoiding situations that generate
dissonance. For this reason, cognitive dissonance is considered a drive
state that generates motivation to achieve consonance and reduce
dissonance.
An example of cognitive dissonance would be if
someone holds the belief that maintaining a healthy lifestyle is
important, but maintains a sedentary lifestyle and eats unhealthy food.
They may experience dissonance between their beliefs and their actions.
If there is a significant amount of dissonance, they may be motivated to
work out more or eat healthier foods. They may also be inclined to
avoid situations that bring them face to face with the fact that their
attitudes and beliefs are inconsistent, by avoiding the gym and avoiding
stepping on their weighing scale.
To avoid dissonance,
individuals may select their experiences in several ways: selective
exposure, i.e. seeking only information that is consonant with one's
current beliefs, thoughts, or actions; selective attention, i.e. paying
attention only to information that is consonant with one's beliefs;
selective interpretation, i.e. interpreting ambiguous information in a
way that seems consistent with one's beliefs; and selective retention,
i.e. remembering only information that is consistent with one's beliefs.
Types of cognitive relationships
According
to cognitive dissonance theory, there are three types of cognitive
relationships: consonant relationships, dissonant relationships, and
irrelevant relationships. Consonant relationships are when two elements,
such as beliefs and actions, are in equilibrium with each other or
coincide. Dissonant relationships are when two elements are not in
equilibrium and cause dissonance. In irrelevant relationships, the two
elements do not possess a meaningful relationship with one another.
2.12. Attribution theory
Attribution theory is part of the socio-psychological tradition and analyzes how individuals make inferences about observed behavior. Attribution theory assumes that we make attributions, or social judgments, as a way to clarify or predict behavior.
Steps to the attribution process
- Observe the behavior or action.
- Make judgments about the intention of a particular action.
- Make an attribution of cause, which may be internal (i.e. the cause is related to the person), or external (i.e. the cause of the action is external circumstances).
For example, when a student fails a test
an observer may choose to attribute that action to 'internal' causes,
such as insufficient study, laziness, or having a poor work ethic.
Alternatively the action might be attributed to 'external' factors such
as the difficulty of the test, or real-world stressors that led to
distraction.
Individuals also make attributions about their own
behavior. The student who received a failing test score might make an
internal attribution, such as "I just can't understand this material",
or an external attribution, such as "this test was just too difficult".
Fundamental attribution error and actor-observer bias
Observers
making attributions about the behavior of others may overemphasize
internal attributions and underestimate external attributions; this is
known as the fundamental attribution error. Conversely, when an
individual makes an attribution about their own behavior they may
overestimate external attributions and underestimate internal
attributions. This is called actor-observer bias.
2.13. Expectancy violations theory
Expectancy violations theory is part of the socio-psychological tradition, and addresses the relationship between non-verbal message production and the interpretations people hold for those non-verbal behaviors. Individuals hold certain expectations for non-verbal behavior that are based on social norms, past experience and situational aspects of that behavior. When expectations are either met or violated, we make assumptions about the behaviors and judge them to be positive or negative.
Arousal
When a deviation of expectations occurs, there is an increased interest in the situation, also known as arousal. This may be either cognitive arousal, an increased mental awareness of expectancy deviations, or physical arousal, resulting in body actions and behaviors as a result of expectancy deviations.
Reward valence
When an expectation is not met, an individual may view the violation of expectations either positively or negatively, depending on their relationship to the violator and their feelings about the outcome.
Proxemics
One
type of violation of expectations is the violation of the expectation of
personal space. The study of proxemics focuses on the use of space to
communicate. Edward T. Hall's (1940-2017) theory of personal space
defined four zones that carry different messages in the U.S.:
- Intimate distance (0–18 inches). This is reserved for intimate relationships with significant others, or the parent-child relationship (hugging, cuddling, kisses, etc.)
- Personal distance (18–48 inches). This is appropriate for close friends and acquaintances, such as significant others and close friends, e.g. sitting close to a friend or family member on the couch.
- Social distance (4–10 feet). This is appropriate for new acquaintances and for professional situations, such as interviews and meetings.
- Public distance (10 feet or more). This is appropriate for a public setting, such as a public street or a park.
2.14. Pedagogical communication
Pedagogical
communication is a form of interpersonal communication that involves
both verbal and nonverbal components. A teacher's nonverbal immediacy,
clarity, and socio-communicative style has significant consequences for
students' affective and cognitive learning.
It has been argued
that "companionship" is a useful metaphor for the role of "immediacy",
the perception of physical, emotional, or psychological proximity
created by positive communicative behaviors, in pedagogy.
2.15. Social networks
A social
network is made up of a set of individuals (or organizations) and the
links among them. For example, each individual may be treated as a node,
and each connection due to friendship or other relationship is treated
as a link. Links may be weighted by the content or frequency of
interactions or the overall strength of the relationship. This treatment
allows patterns or structures within the network to be identified and
analyzed, and shifts the focus of interpersonal communication research
from solely analyzing dyadic relationships to analyzing larger networks
of connections among communicators. Instead of describing the
personalities and communication qualities of an individual, individuals
are described in terms of their relative location within a larger social
network structure. Such structures both create and reflect a wide range
of social phenomena.
2.16. Hurt
Interpersonal communications can lead to hurt in relationships. Categories of [Hurtful communication#Defining_hurtful_communication hurt] include devaluation, relational transgressions, and hurtful communication.
Devaluation
A person can feel devalued at the individual and relational level. Individuals can feel devalued when someone insults their intelligence, appearance, personality, or life decisions. At the relational level, individuals can feel devalued when they believe that their partner does not perceive the relationship to be close, important, or valuable.
Relational transgressions
Relational transgressions occur when individuals violate implicit or explicit relational rules. For instance, if the relationship is conducted on the assumption of sexual and emotional fidelity, violating this standard represents a relational transgression. Infidelity is a form of hurt that can have particularly strong negative effects on relationships. The method by which the infidelity is discovered influences the degree of hurt: witnessing the partner's infidelity first hand is most likely to destroy the relationship, while partners who confess on their own are most likely to be forgiven.
Hurtful communication
Hurtful
communication is communication that inflicts psychological pain.
According to Vangelisti (1994), words "have the ability to hurt or harm
in every bit as real a way as physical objects. A few ill-spoken words
(e.g. "You're worthless," "You'll never amount to anything," "I don't
love you anymore") can strongly affect individuals, interactions, and
relationships".
2.17. Interpersonal conflict
Many interpersonal communication
scholars have sought to define and understand interpersonal conflict,
using varied definitions of conflict. In 2004, Barki and Hartwick
consolidated several definitions across the discipline and defined
conflict as "a dynamic process that occurs between interdependent
parties as they experience negative emotional reactions to perceived
disagreements and interference with the attainment of their goals". They
note three properties generally associated with conflict situations:
disagreement, negative emotion, and interference.
In the context
of an organization, there are two targets of conflicts: tasks, or
interpersonal relationships. Conflicts over events, plans, behaviors,
etc. are task issues, while conflict in relationships involves dispute
over issues such as attitudes, values, beliefs, behaviors, or
relationship status.
2.18. Technology and interpersonal communication skills
Technologies
such as email, text messaging and social media have added a new
dimension to interpersonal communication. There are increasing claims
that over-reliance on online communication affects the development of
interpersonal communication skills, in particular nonverbal
communication. Psychologists and communication experts argue that
listening to and comprehending conversations plays a significant role in
developing effective interpersonal communication skills.
3. Relevance to mass communication
Interpersonal communication
has been studied as a mediator for information flow from mass media to
the wider population. The two-step flow of communication theory proposes
that most people form their opinions under the influence of opinion
leaders, who in turn are influenced by the mass media. Many studies have
repeated this logic in investigating the effects of personal and mass
communication, for example in election campaigns and health-related
information campaigns.
It is not clear whether or how social
networking through sites such as Facebook changes this picture. Social
networking is conducted over electronic devices with no face-to-face
interaction, resulting in an inability to access the behavior of the
communicator and the nonverbal signals that facilitate communication.
Side effects of using these technologies for communication may not
always be apparent to the individual user, and may involve both benefits
and risks.
4. Context


Understanding the context of a situation may lead to an awareness of necessary precautions.
Context
refers to environmental factors that influence the outcomes of
communication. These include time and place, as well as factors like
family relationships, gender, culture, personal interest and the
environment. Any given situation may involve many interacting contexts,
including the retrospective context and the emergent context. The
retrospective context is everything that comes before a particular
behavior that might help understand and interpret that behavior, while
the emergent context refers to relevant events that come after the
behavior. Context can include all aspects of social channels and
situational milieu, the cultural and linguistic backgrounds of the
participants, and the developmental stage or maturity of the
participants.
Situational milieu
Situational milieu can be
defined as the combination of the social and physical environments in
which something takes place. For example, a classroom, a military
conflict, a supermarket checkout, and a hospital would be considered
situational milieus. The season, weather, current physical location and
environment are also milieus.
To understand the meaning of what
is being communicated, context must be considered. Internal and external
noise can have a profound effect on interpersonal communication.
External noise consists of outside influences that distract from the
communication. Internal noise is described as cognitive causes of
interference in a communication transaction. In the hospital setting,
for example, external noise can include the sound made by medical
equipment or conversations had by team members outside of patient's
rooms, and internal noise could be a health care professional's thoughts
about other issues that distract them from the current conversation
with a client.
Channels of communication also affect the
effectiveness of interpersonal communication. Communication channels may
be either synchronous or asynchronous. Synchronous communication takes
place in real time, for example face-to-face discussions and telephone
conversations. Asynchronous communications can be sent and received at
different times, as with text messages and e-mails.
In a hospital
environment, for example, urgent situations may require the immediacy
of communication through synchronous channels. Benefits of synchronous
communication include immediate message delivery, and fewer chances of
misunderstandings and miscommunications. A disadvantage of synchronous
communication is that it can be difficult to retain, recall, and
organize the information that has been given in a verbal message,
especially when copious amounts of data have been communicated in a
short amount of time. Asynchronous messages can serve as reminders of
what has been done and what needs to be done, which can prove beneficial
in a fast-paced health care setting. However, the sender does not know
when the other person will receive the message. When used appropriately,
synchronous and asynchronous communication channels are both efficient
ways to communicate. Mistakes in hospital contexts are often a result of
communication problems.
Cultural and linguistic backgrounds
Linguistics
is the study of language, and is divided into three broad aspects: the
form of language, the meaning of language, and the context or function
of language. Form refers to the words and sounds of language and how the
words are used to make sentences. Meaning focuses on the significance
of the words and sentences that human beings have put together.
Function, or context, interprets the meaning of the words and sentences
being said to understand why a person is communicating.
Culture
is a human concept that encompasses the beliefs, values, attitudes, and
customs of groups of people. It is important in communication because of
the help it provides in transmitting complex ideas, feelings, and
specific situations from one person to another. Culture influences an
individual's thoughts, feelings and actions, and therefore affects
communication. The more difference there is between the cultural
backgrounds of two people, the more different their styles of
communication will be. Therefore, it is important to be aware of a
person's background, ideas and beliefs and consider their social,
economic and political positions before attempting to decode the message
accurately and respond appropriately. Five major elements related to
culture affect the communication process:
Communication diagram showing types of communication between cultures, including verbal and non-verbal communication.
- Cultural history
- Religion
- Value (personal and cultural)
- Social organization
- Language
Communication
between cultures may occur through verbal communication or nonverbal
communication. Culture influences verbal communication in a variety of
ways, particularly by imposing language barriers. Each individual has
their own languages, beliefs and values that must be considered. Factors
influencing nonverbal communication include the different roles of eye
contact in different cultures. Touching as a form of greeting may be
perceived as impolite in some cultures, but normal in others.
Acknowledging and understanding these cultural differences improves
communication.
In the health professions, communication is an
important part of the quality of care and strongly influences client and
resident satisfaction; it is a core element of care and is a
fundamentally required skill. For example, the nurse-patient
relationship is mediated by both verbal and nonverbal communication, and
both aspects need to be understood.
Developmental Progress (maturity)

Pie chart of verbal (20%) and non-verbal (80%) communication in infants.
Communication
skills develop throughout one's lifetime. The majority of language
development happens during infancy and early childhood. The attributes
for each level of development can be used to improve communication with
individuals of these ages.