Read this article, which explains interpersonal communication. Consider
the ways in which you can apply this knowledge in your own interactions.
2. Theories
2.11. Cognitive dissonance theory
The
theory of cognitive dissonance, part of the cybernetic tradition,
argues that humans are consistency seekers and attempt to reduce their
dissonance, or cognitive discomfort. The theory was developed in the
1950s by Leon Festinger.
The theory holds that when individuals
encounter new information or new experiences, they categorize the
information based on their preexisting attitudes, thoughts, and beliefs.
If the new encounter does not fit their preexisting assumptions, then
dissonance is likely to occur. Individuals are then motivated to reduce
the dissonance they experience by avoiding situations that generate
dissonance. For this reason, cognitive dissonance is considered a drive
state that generates motivation to achieve consonance and reduce
dissonance.
An example of cognitive dissonance would be if
someone holds the belief that maintaining a healthy lifestyle is
important, but maintains a sedentary lifestyle and eats unhealthy food.
They may experience dissonance between their beliefs and their actions.
If there is a significant amount of dissonance, they may be motivated to
work out more or eat healthier foods. They may also be inclined to
avoid situations that bring them face to face with the fact that their
attitudes and beliefs are inconsistent, by avoiding the gym and avoiding
stepping on their weighing scale.
To avoid dissonance,
individuals may select their experiences in several ways: selective
exposure, i.e. seeking only information that is consonant with one's
current beliefs, thoughts, or actions; selective attention, i.e. paying
attention only to information that is consonant with one's beliefs;
selective interpretation, i.e. interpreting ambiguous information in a
way that seems consistent with one's beliefs; and selective retention,
i.e. remembering only information that is consistent with one's beliefs.
Types of cognitive relationships
According
to cognitive dissonance theory, there are three types of cognitive
relationships: consonant relationships, dissonant relationships, and
irrelevant relationships. Consonant relationships are when two elements,
such as beliefs and actions, are in equilibrium with each other or
coincide. Dissonant relationships are when two elements are not in
equilibrium and cause dissonance. In irrelevant relationships, the two
elements do not possess a meaningful relationship with one another.